Pusingnya jadi orang tua

thank to sigit, image nya aku ambil tanpa seijinmu

Sebenarnya ini bukan hal baru di Indonesia, specific di Jakarta, pembicaraan ibu-ibu saat pembagian raport, saat di arisan, saat ngerumpi di kantor di mall, juga obrolan iseng bapak-bapak di kantor soal pendidikan anak. Awal tahun biasanya orang tua sudah mulai menyiapkan mencari sekolah untuk anak2 nya, walaupun awal tahu ajaran baru baru di mulai bulan Juni/July, dan memang sekolah2 yang di kenal "BAGUS" sudah membuka pendaftarannya. Dapat kabar dari dari beberapa teman yang mengeluh bahwa dia "terpaksa" mengeluarkan uang cukup banyak 8-12 juta untuk pre-school, dan hampir 20 Juta rupiah, untuk mendaftarkan Anaknya di sekolah Favorite, bahkan ada yang meminta bayaran dan uang pangkal di muka selama setahun. Katakan lah uang bulanannya 5 Juta sebulan berarti sudah harus mengeluarkan uang 60 Juta selama tahun pertama di tambah uang pangkal 20 juta, in total sudah 80 Juta untuk masuk ke "Sekolah Dasar", ini belum yang membayarnya dengan Dollar atau singapore dollar. kemudian seorang di tempat pembagian raport jadi "keder" plus sedih, "wah, jeng suamiku apa bisa yah membiayai pendidikan anak saya ke SD itu, kalau biayanya selangit gitu", tampangnya sudah putus asa karena takut anaknya ngga bisa masuk ke sekolah yang katanya "BAGUS". fenomena atau realita, persoalan nan dilematis ini pasti banyak membuat orang tua sakit kepala.

Salah seorang familly malah dengan bangga bilang kalau anaknya di sekolahkan di sekolah yang berbayar dengan Dollar, dasar aku suka iseng, " wah mbak, kayak di glodok aja, disana juga terima bayaran dollar kalau mau beli komputer jangkrik", asli guyonan ngga lucu.

Aku sempet tanya apa sich kurikulum yang di ajarkan di sekolah "Bagus" itu ?

seorang teman bilang, "Mas, di sekolah itu dari SD sudah diajarin bahasa Inggris dan eksulnya bahasa Cina, perancis atau Inggris"

ya, aku tanya apakah itu memang berguna, kalau bahasa sehari-hari masih bahasa Indonesia, lah kita ini tinggal di Indonesia, berbahasa Indonesia, kalau belanja di kelas carefour atau kemang, plaza Indonesia sekalipun masih memakai bahasa Indonesia. Kalau memang anaknya pengen cas-ces-cos berbahasa Inggris yaa sekolah sekalian di Anglo-Saxon dari Awal biar jadi Fluent. Apa kita sudah ngga bangga dengan bahasa sendiri, apa bahasa Indonesia sekarang sudah jadi bahasa ketiga setelah bahasa asing tadi ?

Saya bertanya, sebenarnya ada fenomena apa sich ? lha wong tinggal di Indonesia, mata uang nya rupiah, gaji rupiah, bayarn pasien dari prakter juga rupiah cuman untuk yang satu itu koq harus mbayar dollar di negara sendiri, terus si mbak dengan santai bilan, "lha so what gitu lho".

Saya yakin cerita saya tentang si Ibu yang panik mungkin bukan di alami banyak Ibu2 di jakarta, dalam jumlah saya yakin mungkin bisa ribuan, bahkan jutaan ibu-ibu sakit kepala. dalam kasus kedua,tapi saya juga yakin banyak ibu-ibu yang bisa membayar dengan Dollar, atau Euro bahkan Poundsterling, cuman kan menggelitik, lah koq sekolah di Indonesia gitu lho. Kalau anaknya sekolah SD di London, Paris atau Berlin ya wajar donk.

Ini sebenarnya baru contoh persoalan dari puncak gunung es persoalan pendidikan di Negara kita, karena demi mengatas namakan gengsi dan trend, orang rela mengeluarkan kocek sampai dalam, serta harus rela membayar jutaan rupiah atau ribuan dollar untuk yang namanya pendidikan dasar. Coba hitung berapa biaya yang harus di keluarkan untuk membeli dollar yaa demi sedikit orang semua warga negara harus menanggung beban negara yang devisanya kabur ke US.

Pandangan saya ada kegagalan dalam sistem pendidikan di Indonesia secara general dan ada degradasi gradual menuju ke arah yang tidak pasti, dimana pendidikan "Bagus" hanya untuk orang yang berduit, pertanyaanya apa orang di Jakarta sudah ngga percaya dengan yang namanya SD/SMP/ SMA INPRES, padahal 20 atau 30 tahun yang lalu "kita" para orang tua sekolah di SD INPRES . Jadi apakah SD INPRES memang sudah ngga up-todate lagi dengan perkembangan jaman atau ini hanya trend saja, kalau memang ngga up to date dimana letak tanggung jawab pemerintah, terutama yang terkait dengan pendidikan. Apa memang kita sudah tidak berdaya atau memang kita sendiri yang sengaja membuat diri kita sebagai tawanan yang sengaja tidak berdaya dan rela di "jajah". Saking parahnya system pendidikan ini sampai pada akhirnya banyak yang menerapkan home scholling karena tidak mau ikut terjebak dengan "system".

Pernah ngga sich ngebayangin kalau pendidikan sudah sangat sedemikian mahalnya di Indonesia, bisa jadi untuk menghasilkan lulusan sarjana bisa sampai Milyaran rupiah yaa. Betapa mahalnya hidup di Indonesia. Jadi mikir kalau cuma alasannya supaya anak bisa berbahasa asing cas-cis-cus, mendingan tak sekolahin di negaranya Napoleon aja, selain bisa berbahasa Perancis plus gratis -tis- tis-tis.

Wah koq saya jadi ikutan mumet

Good News, balanced and free, why not.

Subscribe to French internet service provider called free.fr, got 400 TV Channels, 24 MB internet connection and PSTN phone, there is two choice still keep france telecom or not attached to France Telecom and have your own number plus you can make call to all fixed phone in France, china, US, and some countries for free, and you just have to pay 30 Euro. Except you register to additional channel from the list you have.

Personally I am not often watching TV, I prefer to browsing to internet to find information, I was subscribe CNN and BBC one year ago, but last two week I decided to unsubscribe, and know I got new channel Al-aljazeera international with very good English ( because the reporter is an English speaking ), Objective, Balance and another alternative.

So what should I got not objective news and is not free not free ??, I think is better if I got the great news and off course free. I believe this TV Channel will be one of big news TV will be steap a head compare to CNN, I believe so.

buy the pictures to donate eartquake victim in Yogjakarta

http://bosangjay.myphotoalbum.com/view_album.php?set_albumName=album01

Indonesian Student in Paris is one of the most active organization from Indonesian community in France, I remember it was two years ago when people who live in Aceh had Tsunami disaster the organization are react and did something to react and taking care to collect the donation from France people I was not here at the time but I heard is sending quite a lot of money to help Aceh people.
And few month ago once Yogjakarta had earthquake the team was react and doing something to find donation, and at this time they are doing charity events called "le marche javanais", and they invite people to come and to enjoy traditional Javaneses Dance, music, etc. And the things was very impress me that some of them who dance and play a traditional music are not Indonesian, they are local people who learn our tradition. And the money we got from selling ticket and some food and goodies we are sending to elementary school "SDN PETIR 2 SRI MARTANI di Bantul Dusun Petir Kelurahan Sri Martani Kec Piyungan" hope the money we are collected can help to renovated the school but I am sure will not enough since the school was completely damage, the total money we had sent to them about 1,166.70 EURO.

If any one of you are interested to buy my picture to do donation please contact me, all the money will be donate 1oo% for help school in Bantul.

I am really happy that Indonesian student are always remember their country, their family when they are have a problem, event I am not student I also happy to help them to take some picture from my gear and I am happy if I can also help people who need our help.

Mengukur Kepuasaan

Mengukur kepuasaan, memang ngga ada barometernya, apalagi namanya kepuasaan materi dan duniawi, Manusia itu memang tidak pernah puas, Begitu juga saya, cuman bisa berdo'a supaya bisa ngerem dikit dan be realistic. Ambil contohnya diri saya sendiri, pertengah tahun ini saya sempet spent uang cukup besar untuk membeli mainan yang memang saya idam-idamkan beberapa tahun yang lalu, Digital SLR, akhirnya keputusan saya jauh pada Nikon D200, karena memang saya tahu ke handalan Nikon. Akhirnya sesaat kepuasan terlampiaskan setelah menunggu sekianlamnya, walaupun istri sempet cemberut dengan harganya yang luar biasa untuk sebuah camera, tapi dengan cukup bagusnya hasil bidikan saya, terutama saat membidik anak dan dia juga sich, jadi sampai pernah di protes, karena photo2 yang di bali isinya cuma mamanya anak2 aja, tapi yah dia sedikit tersenyum kecut waktu tahu detail price of DSLR itu, tapi tetap manis koq walaupun sempet di cemberutin.

Sudah cukup satu lens, koq kayaknya pengen lens yang lain, karena kebutuhan, karena memang lens di jual secara terpisah tergantung kebutuhan, untuk wide angle, tele, super tele, micro, prime dan lainnya ngga "bisa" dengan single lens, kecuali di paksain tapi hasilnya ngga maximal. Sedangkan untuk bisa punya banyak lens uang yang harus di keluarkan bisa 3 kali lipat dari harga body camera tersebut, walaupun ngga harus make nikkor lens, bisa juga pakai sigma, tokina, zeis atau lensa third party yang memang cocok di pasang untuk body tersebut, untungnya hampir semua lens baik yang manual atau autofocus bisa masuk dengan D200. Itu baru lens, belum tripod, flash, compact flash dan tetek bengek lainnya, kalau di paksakan wah bisa menguras kocek sampai kering deh hanya untuk hobby yang satu ini.

Kebutuhan lain selain gear lens yaitu Digital processing yang memang asyik sekali untuk memoles hasil photo yang kita ambil, atau sering di sebut dark room processing. Awal-awal sich aku masih OK dengan memakai laptop yang memorynya udah 1 GB, tapi semakin hari di karenakan semakin banyak photo hasil jepretan memaksa hardiskku penuh, karena memang 1 files bisa sampai 10 Mb. Alhasil terpaksa beli Hardisk baru atau pengen ganti komputer yang processornya dan memorynya lebih besar, lah kalau Laptop mana bisa di upgrade, hmmm mulai lah melirik Apple Mac Pro, gubrak..... totalnya 2400 euro, hmm atau pake PC / barebone ( PC Mini ) aja deh terus makai Mac OS, eng ing eng bisa teken 50% yaa cuman lumayan masih mahal. Memang sangat dilematis antara hobby dan spent money, dan terkadang jadi ngga realistis demi hobby... akhirnya setelah berhitung saya beneran parkir dulu deh, kayaknya belum bisa hahahah sementara cukup menggunakan yang ada dan menabung dan menabung dulu, yah bersyukur deh udah punya gear yang cukup dan DVD writer, jadi sementara tuh hasil photo di simpen aja dalam DVD, kalau udah ada waktu dan duit baru deh di edit2, seorang temen sempet bilang, wah emang sudah siap beralih profesi jadi photographer ??, waks, photography cuman hobby tapi kalau bisa menghasilkan selain kerja profesional kenapa ngga, cuman sekarang belum.

Jadi emang gitu, udah punya satu mobile phone, pangen yang lain wah kayaknya chocolate dariLG bagus nich, udah punya PDA satu wah kayaknya Qtek bagus nich bisa smartphone, bisa buat PDA bisa juga buat 3G phone,
udah punya satu tas Louis vitton asik juga yaa kalau ada 3 plus bally dan tas produksi cibadut,
dah punya rumah di pondok indahsatu ahh seru juga nich kalau bisa punya rumah yang ada kolam renangnya, apalagi town house yang sekrang lagi ngetren, udah punya mobil satu ah asik juga bisa ganti-ganti mobil........ never ending

hmmm untung saya cuma kepengin punya lens baru dan bukan istri baru hahahhaha:-D, Iya lah lens boleh banyak dan bisa ganti2 tapi istri yaa satu aja karena istri kan bukan lens,

Memang manusia ngga pernah puas, termasuk juga saya.... Ya Allah lindungilah hambamu ini

Liburan ngga ada planning

Libur tlah tiba......

Tadi siang aku dan temen di kantor ngadain acara minum bersama sebelum liburan Noel dan tahun baru, yaa ini semacam kebiasaan orang disini dalam menyambut hari-2 special.

Biasanya tersedia semua macam minuman, makanan ringan, terus karena aku ngga ngerti yang kayak gituan yaa udah aku minum jus anggur aja, dari pada get drunk di kantor dan ngga bisa pulang, cari yang aman dan halal, aja.

setelah selesai acara kebanyakan pada pulang, karena Natal udah dekat, jadi pada sibuk beli Kado atau pulang kampung, yah mirip lebaran deh, semua sibuk. begitu juga temen2 indo disini ternyata pada pulang ke Indo, padahal pada ngga natalan mereka, alasan yaa kan disini dingin. Emang bener disini lumayan dingin, malam ini udah 0 derajat, wah liburan ini bisa bete donk, masak cuman ngendon di Paris aja. Pengen balik lagi ke Jakarta, cuman libur seminggu ini yaah capek di Jalan aja.

buat yang nganggur dan ngga ada ide liburan kali ini, hubungi saya, mungkin bisa kemana gitu, naik ke alpen juga boleh lah, dari pada bengong sendirian.

incroyable,

What the beautiful day, the Sun finally come up with big smile, apres deux jours pas de soleil, aujourd'hui, Il fait beau. I am happy even today as expected to be cold with sunrise, when I left my apartment was 3 degree this morning.

Several block from where I lived, I saw there is one girl are complain and angry with sapeur pompier de Paris, because she was blocked on the street in front of fireman office, she look not patient waiting the fireman parking the truck, she went out from her car and she look very angry. ThenFrench's girl was screaming out of several fireman, some of the fireman also was not happy because she talk some bad languages to them, but the chief was take care of the young fireman not to be emotional, and after the truck was parked properly and the chief let her to drive a way, she still outside the car and she was talking and keep with high intonation and almost screaming, I said " C'est pas vrai, incroyable", until some cars on the queue are pressing the horn, and asked the girl to move, "allors bouger,bouger" said the man from the other car.

Well, is like in the movie, I just stop few minutes to look the drama on the street in great Sunny morning, yep it happen sometimes people in the big city is very temper, a lots of problem living in big city, got traffic jam, or perhaps rushing to go to toilet, etc,

"regard cette mademoiselle elle très jolie, événement qu'elle regardent très fâchée, et il est petit exemple, cette fille française ne sont pas facile ce contrôler", just walk away......

Sedikit sinar yang menggetarkan hati

Matahari benar tak datang pagi ini. Berangkat dari apartement sudah jam 8.30 masih gelap sekali, dan udara cukup sejuk 5 derajat saja, ditambah sedikit angin di pagi hari, Aku berjalan cepat sekali menuju Station metro, bukannya takut kesiangan, tapi kepala yang muali botak ini ngga tahan juga kena semilir angin pagi ini.

Puffs, 8 Menit dari apartment ke Stasiun metro Jasmin, jaraknya memang ngga terlalu jauh sekitar 1 Km, lumayan aja olahraga pagi, dalam hitungan detik dah ada di dalam kereta yang menuju Pont de Serve. Kurang dari 10 menit dah sampai dan aku harus keluar ganti dengan Bus, wah ternyata di luar sana masih gelap dan berkabut, dans ce minutes, aku dah berada di dalam bus, dan bilang bonjour sama supir nya sambil tunjukin La Carte Orange, seperti biasa dapat tempat duduk Favorite dan sepanjang jalan mendung dan gelap, "ah sedihnya, mendung", kata ku.

Dan gitu sampai di kantor, aku buka tirai lebar-2 supaya aku bisa melihat kalau ada matahari keluar, sesekali menengok keluar sambil bales email yang ngga ada habisnya, project document yang harus di selesaikan dan expense report yang belum kelar, tapi sang mentari ngga muncul juga, makan siang udah lewat, aku kembali asik di depan komputerku tanpa disuruh kepala menoleh ke jendela, dan aku liat seberkas sinar mentari di tutupi awan tebal...

at least masih bisa ngeliat cahaya walaupun sedikit, wah bener-bener bikin hatiku bergetar... Subhanallah..... sayang tadi aku ngga bawa cameraku, aku coba capture dengan camera di mobile phone hasilnya kurang bagus, yaa udah aku pandangin dalam2, temenku manggil ngaja ngopi aku cuekin aja, aku bener2 menikmati... dan kurang dari 10 menit, awan gelap menutupi yaaa sudah lah aku mau bilang apa lagi, cuma bersyukur hari ini masih bisa melihat matahari..... yaa semoga Tuhan masih kasih kesempatan lebih lama lagi melihat matahari di hari esok.

mungkin kalau yang tinggal di negara tropis, bosen kali yaa liat matahari, cuma kalau yang tinggal di negara 4 musim melihat matahari adalah satu keindahan tersendiri, kita bisa mengagumi ciptaan NYA, karena ngga ada setiap saat. Kebayang kan yang tinggal di Finlan atau daerah kutub sana yang ngga pernah atau jarang liat matahari, bahkan banyak orang yang jadi gila dan bunuh diri karena malam yang panjang tanpa ada pagi yang cerah dengan sang mentari.

semoga besok bisa melihat mentari, as expected bakalan cerah, mau -1 derajat juga aku jabanin deh.

Menanti Matahari

Ternyata ramalan meteo kali ini agak meleset, karena ternyata hari ini cloudy ngga seperti yang mereka bilang kalau hari ini akan ada matahari. Akhirnya di rumah aja, tidur, baca buku, denger musik, browsing sampe bosen juga di rumah seharian, cuma mau keluar wah dingin juga rasanya. Akhirnya terpaksa diam di rumah being lazy, setelah 3 minggu nih apartment kosong.

sekarang bingung mau ngapain lagi, asli bosen banget ngga bisa ngeliat matahari... yaa semoga esok masih ada matahari pagi yang bersinar cerah di pagi hari, padahal liat meteo matahari mungkin baru muncul hari selasa dan rabu plus suhu bisa cuma maksimal 3 derajat dan ekstrimnya -1, ngga apa-2 deh biar kedinginan asal masih bisa liat Matahari ngga apa2 deh.


Besok hujan dan suhu maksimal 5 derajat, tapi besok harus ngantor karena ada banyak kerjaan yang emang ngga bisa di tinggalkan....

Yah semoga ramalan meteo kali ini meleset lagi, siapa tahu besok bisa liat matahari.

secangkir susu hangat.........

Pagi hari ditemani secangkir susu coklat hangat dan setangkapp roti menikmati pagi yang dingin, menurut www.meteofrance.com, hari ini 6 derajat tapi cerah, wah asik bisa liat matahari setelah kemarin mendung dan gerimis seharian.

Spt biasa di depan computer terus, Googling tenang Barrack Obama senator Amerika yang bakalan kuat menjadi kandidat presiden US dari partai demokrat. Kalau kejadian wah US bakal punya presiden yang keturunan Kenya dan ibu amerika, akhirnya impian martin luther king kesampean, yang menarik Obama ini pernah sekolah di Jakarta, Indonesia tahun 1967, saya juga tahu dari majalah gatra, hmm ini menarik kalau memang Obama bisa jadi president, berarti sudah ada dua orang Amerika yang pernah mengenyam pendidikan di Indonesia, satu lagi Condoleezza Rice, yang pernah mengenyam pendidikan di Jogjakarta, tapi tak coba googling koq ngga nemu yaa ? pertanyaanya so what gitu lhoo?, iya apa hubungannya sekolah di Indonesia dan menjadi pemimpin dunia, yang jelas coba aja di Cek and Ricek yang ada di VOA, dasar emang hoby nya gossip jadi walaupun dah menjadi voice of amerika yaa section seputar gossip juga ada, apa coba asli ngga nyambung blass....

yoo wish aku tak nyeruput susu hangat dulu, uffs maksudte sak cangkir susu anget, wah mengko ono sing mmisuhi aku iki.

10 Years working with in one company

Today is 10 years I have been working with this company. I would like thank to God, my to Family and Also a lot of friends and colleagues are supporting my self and my future career, 10 years was quite long time I had very good time and also very bad time during this period. I have meet many people around the world, work together with them and sometimes fight with them on the positive way to deliver the job. I have been traveling to many places and it is another benefit working with multinational company. Up today I am still not at the top of my career, but I believe I am on the track and next station will be very close. Thanks to my previous chief was put me in the right track, I can't say anything except merci beacoup et super !!., Je crois que Dieu comptant toujours un bon travail même est seulement un petit morceau de poivre

life is not simple dont make more complecated

Just, came to office today, yesterday was very tired after 12 hours spent on the flight. Arrived in the office many friend come to me asked about the forum etc. Everything was OK I said and thank to all was help during the time.

back to normal life, have many thing have to process after postpone several time, some email have to follow-up, meeting need to organized, some issues have to solve before end of the year.

I got one of colleague was working with me before and right know he become a teacher in university in France, he invited his student to visit our place and labs to see the working environment and technology update today. I think his doing a good job today, seems he is enjoying his life as a teacher, he also asked me to present to his student a new technology I have working on, well that's a good idea and spent about 30 minutes about WiMAX technology.

After finish all the job today, just leave office around 8.00 pm, out side was dark,cold and windy and I miss the bus, I have to walk to another bus stop during the windy night........yea life is not so simple and lets not make more complicated

Last shopping before take off

Waiting is boring, my wife just flying back and my flight still 7 hours to go, well the good things that, Hong Kong airport is offered free WiFI everywhere, waste time to read email, browsing and chatting is not bad idea to kill the time. But stay in front of computer for more than 7 hours is to much. I had explore all the side of Airport, this airport is really big and what is interesting every where is a place to do shopping. I got the message that " Hey dude, please spent your money or swipe your credit card before leave Hong Kong", you can find any clothes, gadget, computer, mobile phones, camera, etc, is really Chinese culture, selling, selling and selling.

I can hold to not buy anything just a look around and see the price, in fact the price in Airport is more expensive compare in outside eventough they mention is tax free, in fact in Hong Kong is tax free hehehe. Yea to buy something like computer stuff and gadget is better to go to Wan Chai Computer center, look around and bargain is must. In this area also you could find small digital camera with better price, but if you find DLSR or lens is better to find in Mong Kok Area, but Anyway this time I am not spent to much money in Hong Kong, even I had planned to buy new lenses for my Digital camera but I am still waiting the price will drop soon.

back to the airport, finally I couldn't stand to swipe my Card in the book store, the price is very cheap compare price in France, and there is a promotion for the series book, buy 3 get 1 free, finally I bought 5 books and got 2 free book. Is not that bad.

After my laptop battery was empty then I am reading some book I bought just know, but still 2 hours to go, I wish I cold change my seat in business class.

It's to short.

Again, just back from working overseas, I have spent 17 days in Hong Kong for Forum. It was great to be there, I meet many people from many country some of them are high level in telecommunication industry, well it is good to know, C'est tout. Hope it will help for future, but we will never know.

Working with different culture and language are very interested and also taough, time to time I got tension talking with people who didn't understand what is the target and objective, is quite complex environment but finally we can solved all the issues, that's make my work becoming easy and have enjoyed a little bit in Hong Kong.

I didn't understand why there is so many people in Hong Kong after office hours, everybody going to the street, fill all the shopping mall, spent all the money but it's not the case for me. I would like to spent money but I always fight not to spent juts bought some cheap stuff like compact flash and gadget for my camera. I wish I could buy some lens but may be this time is not lucky time for me, because all the lens I am looking for are not available to bad but perhaps is good.

After working for three week end without any single day off, the last weekend, my lovely wife came to hong kong to spent the week-end there, I have to extend staying there just to relax a bit and enjoyed without working, so we decided to stay one more day, it was wonderful spending time in Ngo Ping 360 cable car, and The peak, and having dinner in the nice restaurant in the peak at least to celebrate her brithday, and she do some shopping, wow what the romantic lover enjoy the hong kong atmosfeer during the night.

Well, time is always moving fast, short holiday is offer, she have to fly back on the afternoon and I have to flying back to france in the night and finally I had spent all my last day in the airport, hope we can have more time soon, together forever.

Normal life.

Just Back from very great vacation, 3 weeks is really to short. But it was amazing without phone and email. Now, back to normal, I will be here for only two weeks should prepare something and fly to Hong Kong and stay there for 15 days, business trip are not consider as vacation hope everything is gonna be OK, hope I will enjoyed Hong Kong this time.

Winter are coming and it's getting cold here, rain drop not very often but the win are quite strong that's the reason feel really cold, anyway just to feel it and enjoyed.

Pulang Kampung, Fenomena yang wajib di tunaikan

Fitrah, adalah kata yang indah di dengar dan selalu di ucapkan pada saat-2 menjelang Ied mubarak. Ied Fithri, adalah hari yang bahagia dan saat yang sedih karena merupakan batas dimana Ramadan pasti berlalu dan kembali tahun depan. Sedih dan senang, kenapa sedih ?, karena belum tentu tahun depan kita dapat berjumpa lagi dengan ramadan, Insya Allah kita masih di kasih nikmat sehat, iman dan ketaqwaan kepada Allah sang pencipta alam semesta dan semoga kita berjumpa kembali dengan ramadan, Insya Allah.

Kenapa senang, pada saat kita kanak2 rasanya senang di hari raya, kita di belikan orang tua baju yang baru, banyak makanan di rumah, tamu-tamu pun berdatangan saling bersilaturahmi, dan biasanya kita mendapat uang, ah itu masa lalu yang tidak mudah di lupakan. Walaupun sekarang bukan anak2 lagi, tapi ada perasaan gembira karena hari raya Ied kali ini, Insya Allah saya berkumpul dengan keluarga, Tidak seperti tahun yang lalu yang hanya merayakannya di KBRI, walaupun banyak bertemu dengan temen, tapi rasanya lain, ada perasaan haru yang tak bisa terbayangkan dimana saat yang baik kita tidak bersama anak, istri, keluarga, orang tua dan kerabat dekat. Yaa berhari raya dengan keluarga memang sangatlah berbeda rasanya, apalagi buat teman2 yang tinggal di luar negri yang jauh dari sanak saudara, pasti akan merasakan hal yang sama seperti saya. Buat saya cukup sekali saja, saya merasakan hal tersebut karena biasanya tahun-tahun sebelumnya saya selalu pulang untuk ber-hari raya, memang tahun kemarin sedikit pengecualian karena saya tidak punya banyak pilihan dan pada salat Ied di KBRI tahun kemarin saya berjanji untuk bisa pulang saat hari raya, Alhamdulillah segera bisa tercapai, walaupun saya harus merelakan untuk tidak liburan musim panas dan tetap bekerja summer dan fall ini dan berkerja multi-tasking untuk menyelesaikan beberapa project dalam waktu yang bersamaan, cukup melelahkan pikiran dan tenaga, shouting, fighting, negociating and faith karena selama summer sangat sulit mendapatkan resources available di Europe (jadi ingat ucapan teman dalam bahasa melayu, "kerja macam gila-babi"), tapi kelelahan saya terbayar sudah, saya merasakan ada kebahagian tersendiri yang tidak ternilai harganya, kerinduan yang selama ini meradang Insya Allah akan terbayarkan.

Saya sangatlah bersyukur karena bisa bisa mendapatkan kesempatan seperti ini, dan buat teman2 yang tidak bisa pulang untuk ber-Iedel Fithri dengan keluarga di kampung halaman jangan iri dan dengki, saya bisa merasakan kesedihan kalian, Hidup adalah pilihan, terkadang kita memang tidak punya banyak pilihan, tapi jangan hanya tergantung dengan pilihan yang ada, tapi buat lah sebanyak mungkin pilihan dan pilihlah sesuai dengan hati nurani dan terimalah semua dengan ke penuh kepasrahan dan ridho kepada Allah sang pencipta alam semesta.

Saya sekeluarga mengucapkan, selamat hari raya Iedul Fitri , 1 Syawal 1426 Hijriah, mohon maaf lahir dan batin, Semoga Allah SWT mengampuni segala kesalahan dan dosa-dosa kita, memberikan rahmat dan hidayahnya dan Insya Allah kita masih diberikan kesempatan melakukan ramadan tahun depan hingga selesai dan terus berkarya sebagai khafilah di bumi ciptaanNYA.

Puasa ke dua di paris

Sebenarnya pengen meng-update blog, karena banyak ide yang mau di tumpahkan, tapi sayang waktu banyak terpakai di kantor. Ini adalah Puasa Ramadan kedua di Paris, Tahun kemarin pun saya melakukan puasa di sini, Insya Allah tahun ini bisa genap seperti tahun kemarin. Oh ya Subuh disini makin siang sekitar jam 06.03 AM, dan magrib jam 7.38 PM . Cuaca juga lumayan nyaman sekitar 15 sampai 21 derajat, karena sekarang udah mulai musim semi.

Temen2 disini suka ngumpul bareng bikin acara buka puasa bersama dari satu tempat ke tempat lain, terutama yang pelajar disini, jadi tiap hari keliling, dan biasanya setiap sabtu sore ada acara buka puasa bersama di KBRI, terus di lanjutkan dengan taraweh, ini kegiatan rutin bertahun-tahun. Bagus juga sich jadi paling ngga bisa ketemu dengan warga negara Indonesia yang lain.

Kemarin sempat bikin Kolak ubi dan pisang, dan teryata kolaknya laku keras, habis!., cuman kangen aja sich dengan tempe goreng atau mendoan bikinan nyokap, biasanya kalau buka makan kurma, terus di lanjutkan dengan makan tempe goreng dengan cabe rawit plus minum teh manis hangat rasanya mantab, setelah itu baru kolak atau asinan. Wah bulana puasa kalau di jakarta jadi tambah gendut, maklumlah camilannya banyak banget. kalau disini yaa secukupnya atau seadanya aja, selain ngga ada waktu buat masak, juga harga nya kelewat mahal, kemarin beli pisang tanduk 3 biji aja habis 2 Euro, terus ubi 05.kg habis 1.5 euro, Blewah 1.5 Euro plus gula merah, santan kara, habis deh hampir 7 euro. kebayang kan kalau duit segitu di bikinin kolak, rasanya cukup buat 60 orang tuch. Tapi yaa mau gimana lagi, walaupun mahal kadang di lakonin juga.

Puasa disini bukan hal ringan karena anda kan tahu sendiri, walaupun banyak orang yang beragama Islam, yang beragama lain jumlahnya lebih besar, jadi memang tidak mudah, suasananya akan beda dengan suasana di Indonesia, pokoknya beda banget. Yang cukup berat disini yaa menahan godaan terutama mata, karena walaupun udah mulai dingin masih banyak di metro atau di bus yang berpakaian sangat sexy, atau bahkan yang asik peluk cium di depan umum, kalau di Indonesia mungkin sudah kena RUU APP, tapi itulah, kadang suka risih juga melihatnya cuman gimana lagi namanya juga kulture nya mereka, paling yang ada memalingkan mata atau pindah tempat duduk. Gitu juga dengan Iklan2 porno di kiosk2 penjual majalah, atau di halte bus, iklan pakain dalam wanita selalu berganti setiap minggu di halte bus dari berbagai merek terkenal, dan menggunakan model yang sexy, wah kasihan banget wanita ter-eksploitasi sekali.

ya, gitulah semoga ini bisa jadi pelajaran untuk memperkuat iman, karena memang godaannya luar biasa beratnya, semoga kita semua selalu dalam lindungannya dan puasa kita di terima di sisi Allah SWT.

Anger, everyone have this....?

Anger, is part of human being, every person have this, person time to time have sadness, jelousy, happiness and anger, is about feeling, is about emotion, according to definition of anger.

"Anger is an emotional response to a grievance; real or imagined; past, present or future, based on the perception of the angry person. Rage is extreme anger whether overtly expressed or repressed. Anger is often based on the perception of threat and it is a frequent emotional component in the Fight or flight response, which is part of the broader stress response. Anger may be seem "provoked" (or triggered) by perceived threats, like conflict, or by abstract concepts such as injustice, humiliation and betrayal among others."

According to definition this is exactly extremely right, why people becoming angry, I am sure everybody was or still in this situation will 100% sure that the definition is right. You don't to keep your anger in your live and you should transfer it to some activities to release or reduce the emotion, but sometimes people couldn't because is already huge, sometimes we can't stand to keep the this emotion, and if it is blow up, for sure will be big a problem. Managing anger is not easy specially when you in the position where you have had big pressured and problem in the same times, sometime the problem are come to you, in-fact is not exactly a problem because sometimes is just matter of perception. For some people small problem can be big problem because not able to look from other prespective, or the problem growing to fast.

then the question is, how to look the problem from another perspective to reduced the anger, the answer is being positive !!

and how to be positive, always think in positive mode, read everything in positive way, never closed with narrow minded people/ negative people, keep smile even you are not happy, breath deeply when you have the problem in front of you and for sure have do a lot of istigfhar, passion and believe that all the problem can be solved without created a new problem.

one thing is also important, share the problem you have with some one you know, talk and share to them, because sometimes when you talk, you just empty an anger in your mind/soul, and never ever bring the problem from office to home or the other a way around.

let's put the glass down. is great article, I had copy from internet, is not new but could be useful.

A lecturer was giving a lecture to his student on stress management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience, "How heavy do you think this glass of water is?"
The students' answers ranged from 20g to 500gm.

"It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is Ok.
If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance."
It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly heavier.
What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again.
We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on.

So before you return home from work tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you are having now on your shoulders, let it down for a moment if you can.
Pick it up again later when you have rested.
Rest and relax.

Life is short, enjoy it!!

Marhaban yaa Ramadhan

Marhaban yaa Ramadhan... mohon maaf atas segala kesalahan, semoga ALLAH SWT senantiasa melimpahkan rahmat,hidayah,Rizky and Barokah -Nya kepada kita semua untuk menjalani ibadah dibulan yang penuh berkah ini.. amien

Sound of Music

I know you are missing of me, and you was sad when heard this song last night, I wanna go home soon, I miss you so much my love.

I'm remember all the lyrics, once I'm home we will sing the song together. Be Good girl OK.

Papa always remember you.

First time side job, as photographer.

I have some Indonesian friends here are living in Paris, they are student. Yesterday the friend of mine asked me to help to take some pictures, since she know that I like hunting a pictures. Yes actually I like to take picture just for hobbies, to kill the time during week-end. She's is studying in Marketing Communication and one of her subject is adverstiment, after had a phone call the day before we are agreed to have an appointment Saturday afternoon in Metro Louvre rivoli.
She has list of the boutiques in 1st Arrondissment as the target of her research, the idea is to take a picture of the display in front of boutique, because of the display sometimes we are interesting to see the boutique and eventhough sometimes we bought the product even we never plan to buy it. This the reason why, display is very important and I just realized that there is special study also for this job.

We start from Rue Rivoli, but some data are not valid the boutique was changed or moved, and we can't get the good situation because during the time there is a demonstration and lots of people come to the street, I will tell you about this story letter on.

Then We start from Rue Saint Honore, as you might know that all the long of this street is full of the very class and expensive boutique, the place of people who like to spent money to follow the mode.

So visit boutique one by one of the did window shopping, have look inside the store and we are acting as tourist, since we had Asian face qnd we are speaking English they think we are really tourist, look the price, asked the brochure, she is very good to get information what she is looking for, during the day we have some difficulties to take a picture in the display because, there is security guard. So we decided to visit all the store and take a display picture during the night. for me this is very challenging because take a picture in the night without flash, is not so easy to checking the ISO and try to finf the object with limited light, but look the result is not that bad isn't.


After we walked all the way long in Rue Saint Honore, if not wrong is about more than 5 KM, we decided to take some break and we plan to have dinner and I called her boy friend to join, he can't join during the day because he should finish thesis, he plan to finish the study next month. Then we meet in Place de la concorde and we have decided to eat "fake"Japanese food. We don't really care about the taste because all of us is very hungry, just in the minute all the food are left from the table.

After we had nice dinner, we continue our work and I'm finished to take more than 100 pictures, and during the work, they realy enjoy Paris in the night, it is wonderful, even special when you are falling in love, walk together hold a hand each other, this a one of the romantic place in the world, and is very romantic moment, I'm sure they are very lucky couples, me, just happy to saw them happy, I took some pictures of them, but I will not publish here, I let my camera become the withness of they are love. Wish you good luck and good night.