Wednesday, September 27, 2006

Anger, everyone have this....?

Anger, is part of human being, every person have this, person time to time have sadness, jelousy, happiness and anger, is about feeling, is about emotion, according to definition of anger.

"Anger is an emotional response to a grievance; real or imagined; past, present or future, based on the perception of the angry person. Rage is extreme anger whether overtly expressed or repressed.

Anger is often based on the perception of threat and it is a frequent emotional component in the Fight or flight response, which is part of the broader stress response.

Anger may be seem "provoked" (or triggered) by perceived threats, like conflict, or by abstract concepts such as injustice, humiliation and betrayal among others."

According to definition this is exactly extremely right, why people becoming angry, I am sure everybody was or still in this situation will 100% sure that the definition is right. You don't to keep your anger in your live and you should transfer it to some activities to release or reduce the emotion, but sometimes people couldn't because is already huge, sometimes we can't stand to keep the this emotion, and if it is blow up, for sure will be big a problem. Managing anger is not easy specially when you in the position where you have had big pressured and problem in the same times, sometime the problem are come to you, in-fact is not exactly a problem because sometimes is just matter of perception. For some people small problem can be big problem because not able to look from other prespective, or the problem growing to fast.

then the question is, how to look the problem from another perspective to reduced the anger, the answer is being positive !!

and how to be positive, always think in positive mode, read everything in positive way, never closed with narrow minded people/ negative people, keep smile even you are not happy, breath deeply when you have the problem in front of you and for sure have do a lot of istigfhar, passion and believe that all the problem can be solved without created a new problem.

one thing is also important, share the problem you have with some one you know, talk and share to them, because sometimes when you talk, you just empty an anger in your mind/soul, and never ever bring the problem from office to home or the other a way around.

let's put the glass down. is great article, I had copy from internet, is not new but could be useful.

A lecturer was giving a lecture to his student on stress management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience, "How heavy do you think this glass of water is?"
The students' answers ranged from 20g to 500gm.

"It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is Ok.
If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance."
It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly heavier.
What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again.
We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on.

So before you return home from work tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you are having now on your shoulders, let it down for a moment if you can.
Pick it up again later when you have rested.
Rest and relax.

Life is short, enjoy it!!


  1. Kan lagi bulan puasa, mas Adjie. Jadi ya sekalian latihan menahan amarah :-)

  2. ya, bener zak, menahan amarah itu memang bukan hal yang gampang, apalagi kalau perut lagi kosong.